Surrogate tapping
This is a technique used in Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) where you tap on behalf of someone else, especially when that person is unable or unwilling to tap for themselves. This can be done for children, pets, friends, or even global or community issues. Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to do surrogate tapping:
Step 1: Identify the Target
Determine the person or issue for whom you’ll be doing surrogate tapping. It could be a child with anxiety, a friend with a specific problem, or even a global issue like a natural disaster.
Step 2: Get Permission
If you’re tapping for someone else, it’s essential to obtain their consent. For children, you should have permission from their parent or guardian. For friends or adults, ask for their consent and explain what surrogate tapping involves.
Step 3: Connect with the Issue
If you’re tapping for someone else, it’s crucial to empathise and connect with their feelings or experiences. Try to understand their emotions and challenges as best as you can.
Step 4: Set Up Statements
Just like in regular EFT tapping, you’ll create setup statements that acknowledge the issue while affirming self-acceptance. For example, “Even though [the person or issue] is experiencing [describe the issue], I deeply and completely love and accept [the person or issue].”
Step 5: Tapping Sequence
Follow the standard EFT tapping sequence while using the setup statement. Tap on the acupressure points (top of the head, eyebrows, side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, chin, collarbone, under the arm, and the karate chop point) as you repeat the setup statement.
Step 6: Voice Their Feelings
As you tap, express the feelings and experiences of the person or issue you’re tapping for. You can use phrases like, “[Name] feels so anxious about [issue]” or “[This situation] makes [Name] feel overwhelmed.”
Step 7: Check Progress
After one or more rounds of tapping, check in with yourself and assess whether you notice any changes in your own emotional state. You might experience a shift in your own feelings, which can indicate that the surrogate tapping is having an effect.
Step 8: Continue as Needed
If you believe it’s necessary, continue tapping for additional rounds. You can adjust the setup statement or address specific aspects of the issue as you see fit. Remember that it might take multiple sessions to see significant results, especially for complex or deeply rooted issues.
Step 9: Show Gratitude
Before concluding the surrogate tapping session, express gratitude for any positive shifts or changes you’ve experienced during the process. This can help reinforce the positive energy and intention behind the tapping.
Step 10: Respect Boundaries
Respect the boundaries of the person you’re tapping for. If they’re not comfortable with surrogate tapping or prefer to address their issues themselves, honour their wishes.
Matrix Re-imprinting
This is an advanced EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) technique that involves revisiting past memories or traumatic events and “re-imprinting” them with more positive and empowering beliefs or experiences. It can be a profound method for healing emotional wounds and transforming limiting beliefs. Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to do Matrix Re-imprinting:
Step 1: Identify the Target Memory
Choose a specific past memory or traumatic event that you’d like to work on. It could be a significant childhood event, a traumatic experience, or any memory that continues to affect your emotional well-being.
Step 2: Create a Setup Statement
Just like in traditional EFT, create a setup statement that acknowledges the issue in the memory while affirming self-acceptance and love. For example, “Even though I have this memory of [describe the event], I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Step 3: Access the Memory
Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and allow yourself to fully immerse in the memory. Try to see, hear, and feel the details of the event as if you’re reliving it.
Step 4: Identify the Negative Beliefs
While immersed in the memory, pay attention to the negative beliefs, emotions, and physical sensations associated with it. These beliefs are often at the root of your emotional distress.
Step 5: Start Tapping
Begin tapping on the EFT acupressure points as you repeat the setup statement. As you tap, include the negative beliefs, emotions, and sensations you identified in the memory. For example, “Even though I felt so scared and helpless during [the memory], I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Step 6: Look for a Turning Point
As you continue tapping, aim to identify a “turning point” or a moment in the memory where you can intervene and create a positive change. This turning point might involve comforting your past self, offering guidance, or changing the outcome of the memory.
Step 7: Re-imprint the Memory
When you reach the turning point, pause and visualize or imagine a new, positive scenario. You might imagine yourself as a supportive and nurturing figure, providing comfort, guidance, and love to your past self. This new scenario is the “reimprinting” process.
Step 8: Tap Through the Re-imprinting
Continue tapping while you reimprint the memory with the positive scenario. Use phrases like, “I choose to rewrite this memory with love and understanding” or “I release the old beliefs and replace them with love and empowerment.”
Step 9: Check Progress
After tapping through the re-imprinting process, return to the original memory and assess how you feel about it now. Notice any changes in your emotions, beliefs, or physical sensations. You may experience a significant shift in your perception of the memory.
Step 10: Repeat as Needed
Matrix Re-imprinting may require multiple sessions to fully transform the memory and associated beliefs. You can revisit the same memory or work on different ones over time.
Step 11: Self-Care and Integration
After a Matrix Re-imprinting session, engage in self-care activities to nurture yourself emotionally and mentally. Journaling about your experiences and insights can also be helpful for integration.
Step 12: Seek Professional Help if Necessary
If you’re dealing with particularly deep or traumatic memories, or if you find it challenging to navigate the process on your own, consider working with a certified Matrix Re-imprinting practitioner who can provide guidance and support.
Borrowing Benefits
This is a group tapping technique in Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) where you tap along with someone else who is addressing their own issues. Surprisingly, you can often experience benefits even if you’re tapping on someone else’s issues. Here’s how to do Borrowing Benefits:
Step 1: Find a Group or Partner
To practice Borrowing Benefits, you’ll need to find a group of people or a partner who is willing to tap together. This can be done in person or virtually through video calls or online group sessions.
Step 2: Choose a “Sender”
In Borrowing Benefits, one person is the “Sender” who will address their specific issue through EFT tapping. This person will be the focus of the tapping session, and the others are the “Borrowers” who will tap along with the Sender.
Step 3: The Sender Identifies Their Issue
The Sender should choose a specific issue they want to work on during the session. It could be a personal problem, an emotional challenge, a traumatic memory, or any issue they want to address using EFT.
Step 4: Set Up Statements
The Sender creates a setup statement that acknowledges their issue while affirming self-acceptance. For example, “Even though I have this anxiety about [describe the issue], I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Step 5: Start Tapping
The Sender begins the EFT tapping sequence by tapping on the acupressure points while using the setup statement. The Borrowers tap along with the Sender, but instead of repeating the Sender’s setup statement, they use a modified statement like, “Even though [Sender’s name] has this anxiety about [describe the issue], I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Step 6: Borrowers Tune In
As the Sender taps and addresses their specific issue, the Borrowers should focus on their own feelings and experiences related to the Sender’s issue. They should tune in to any similar emotions or issues they might have.
Step 7: Monitor Your Own Progress
During the tapping session, Borrowers should notice if their own emotional state changes. They might experience a reduction in their own emotional intensity related to issues similar to the Sender’s.
Step 8: Swap Roles
After the Sender completes their tapping session, you can swap roles. Another person becomes the Sender and chooses their issue, while the previous Sender and other Borrowers tap along.
Step 9: Reflect and Share
After the Borrowing Benefits session, take some time for reflection and discussion. Share your experiences and any shifts you noticed in your own emotions or issues during the session.
Step 10: Repeat as Desired
You can continue swapping roles and tapping as a group for different issues or for the same issue over multiple sessions. The more you practice Borrowing Benefits, the more you may notice positive changes in your own emotional state and well-being.
Tapping for belief systems
This involves using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to address and change limiting or negative beliefs that are holding you back. Beliefs shape your thoughts, emotions, and actions, so altering them can be a powerful way to create positive change in your life. Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to tap for belief systems:
Step 1: Identify the Belief
Start by identifying the specific belief you want to work on. It could be a limiting belief like “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t deserve success,” or “I’m unworthy of love.”
Step 2: Create a Setup Statement
Create a setup statement that acknowledges the belief while affirming self-acceptance and love. For example, if you’re addressing the belief “I’m not good enough,” your setup statement might be, “Even though I believe I’m not good enough, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Step 3: Rate the Belief
On a scale from 0 to 10, rate the intensity of the belief’s emotional charge. This will help you track your progress throughout the tapping process.
Step 4: Start Tapping
Begin the EFT tapping sequence while repeating your setup statement. Tap on the acupressure points (top of the head, eyebrows, side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, chin, collarbone, under the arm, and the karate chop point) as you say the setup statement.
Step 5: State the Belief and Associated Emotions
As you tap, state the belief and any associated emotions or memories that come up. For example, “I’m not good enough,” “I feel unworthy,” or “I remember when I was criticised for not being good enough.”
Step 6: Challenge the Belief
After a few rounds of tapping, challenge the belief with more empowering statements. Replace the negative belief with positive affirmations that counteract it. For instance, “I am more than good enough,” “I deserve success,” or “I am worthy of love.”
Step 7: Tap and Affirm
Continue tapping while repeating these positive affirmations, reinforcing the new belief system. Visualize yourself living with this new belief and the positive changes it can bring to your life.
Step 8: Check Progress
Re-assess the intensity of the belief on a scale from 0 to 10. Notice any changes in your emotional state and the level of distress associated with the belief. The goal is to reduce the intensity of the belief to as close to zero as possible.
Step 9: Repeat as Needed
If the belief still holds a charge, continue tapping and repeating the process. Beliefs can be deeply ingrained, so persistence and consistency in tapping are often necessary.
Step 10: Self-Care and Integration
After a tapping session, engage in self-care activities to nurture yourself emotionally and mentally. Journaling about your experiences and insights can also be helpful for integrating the new belief system into your daily life.
Step 11: Seek Professional Help if Necessary
For deeply ingrained or complex belief systems, or if you find it challenging to navigate the process on your own, consider working with a certified EFT practitioner or a therapist who specialises in belief work.
Final Thoughts
Surrogate tapping can be a powerful way to help others, even when they can’t participate directly in the process. Matrix Re-imprinting can be a powerful technique for healing and personal transformation. It allows you to address past traumas and rewrite the script of your life, replacing old beliefs and emotions with more positive and empowering ones.
Borrowing Benefits is a complementary technique that can be a valuable addition to your self-help toolkit and provide support in a group or partner setting. Tapping for belief systems can be a powerful way to shift your mindset and create positive changes in your life. By addressing and transforming limiting beliefs, you can unlock your potential and pursue your goals with greater confidence and self-assuredness. Remember that EFT Tapping is not a substitute for professional therapy or guidance.